If you’re going to be in a relationship, don’t be the ‘permeable membrane’ Liz Gilbert conjures in Eat Pray Love; don’t give up your soul; don’t lose sight of yourself. You want a partner, not a conjoined twin; you share an address, or a name, not a skin and vital organs. He fell in love with you, not an extension of himself; don’t let him – and yourself – down by forgetting that.
In a tiny basement room of my 12-unit apartment building, there are a single washer and dryer grinding away under fluorescent light, like a pair of overworked prostitutes. Before the night is over I will have put a load into each one of them. Done with the washer, I move on to the dryer where [...]